Know what's causing the shyness

　　What are the situations that trigger your shyness? Despite what you may think, you're not shy all the time. For example, when you're with your best friend, you're probably very open and comfortable being yourself. Realize that shyness is the effect of feeling insecure. If you can identify what you're feeling insecure about, you can then take action on it。

　　你為什么害羞？

　　什么情況下你會(huì)害羞？不論如何，你肯定不是所有時(shí)候都害羞。比如，當(dāng)你和最好的朋友在一起、或者一個(gè)人的時(shí)候，你肯定會(huì)感覺(jué)很放松。要知道，害羞的根源是不安全感。只有你知道了自己感到不安全的是什么，你才能有針對(duì)性的采取行動(dòng)。

　　Improve on your areas of insecurity

　　After identifying your areas of insecurity, the next step is to take action on them. For example, perhaps you are shy when it comes to presentations at work. If that's the case, then work on improving your presentation skills! Invest your 10,000 hours of hard work - it's been said that 10,000 hours is the average time experts spend to be the best at their skills。

　　自我提升

　　當(dāng)你知道自己在哪些方面感到不安全后，下一步就是采取行動(dòng)了。比如，也許你在演示自己的工作時(shí)感到害羞，那么去花10000個(gè)小時(shí)提升你的演示技能吧！因?yàn)閾?jù)說(shuō)那些在某個(gè)領(lǐng)域做到最好的專(zhuān)家們?cè)谟?xùn)練他們的技能上所花費(fèi)的平均時(shí)間是10000個(gè)小時(shí)。

　　Identify your strengths

　　Many of us tend to focus on what we're not good at, rather than recognize what we are good at. As a result, we feel awkward around others, because we feel there's nothing to impressive about ourselves. It's time to stop selling yourself short and start focusing on your strengths. What are you good at? What are your past achievements? What are things you've done that you are really proud of? Spend some time to recognize them。

　　認(rèn)清自己的優(yōu)勢(shì)

　　很多人都把注意力放在自己的劣勢(shì)上，而往往忽略了自己的優(yōu)勢(shì)。這樣一來(lái)，我們就會(huì)覺(jué)得自己一無(wú)是處。是時(shí)候開(kāi)始關(guān)注自己的長(zhǎng)處啦！花時(shí)間想想：我擅長(zhǎng)做什么？我有過(guò)哪些成就？我做過(guò)哪些令自己引以為榮的事情？

　　Objectify the situatio

　　Many people worry too much about what others think about them. But the funny thing is, it's just in your mind. Most people are actually too busy thinking about themselves to pay attention to what you're doing or not doing。

　　拒接“單相思”

　　很多人都太在乎別人怎么看自己了。但有趣的是，這只是“單相思”。實(shí)際上大部分人都忙于考慮自己的事情而根本沒(méi)注意你做了什么或者沒(méi)做什么。

　　Have a role model

　　Can you think of someone (whether a friend or a famous person) you know who is very confident, assured and outgoing? Use the person as your role model. Whenever you feel shy, ask yourself what that person will do/say in this situation. Then, do that. Soon, it becomes second nature to you to behave in that manner。

　　找個(gè)榜樣

　　你能想到一個(gè)充滿(mǎn)自信，開(kāi)朗外向的朋友或名人嗎？把他當(dāng)做你的榜樣吧。一旦你害羞了，問(wèn)問(wèn)自己他在這種情況下會(huì)怎么做，然后向他學(xué)習(xí)。很快，這種行為方式也就會(huì)成你的第二天性。

　　Observe how others interact

　　A great way to overcome shyness is to observe how others around you act. Reduce the time you spend worrying about how others perceive you and look outward at how others conduct themselves socially. What do they say? How do they act? What can you learn from them?

　　觀察別人

　　一種克服害羞的好方法是觀察別人怎么做。不要去想別人怎么看你，把時(shí)間花在觀察他們?cè)趺葱袆?dòng)上。他們?cè)趺凑f(shuō)？怎么做？你能從他們身上學(xué)到什么？